The Reality of Doing It All Myself

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Lately, I’ve been feeling fatigued and completely drained. It’s that all-too-familiar sensation of running on fumes, tired not just in body, but in spirit. The reason? I’ve been doing everything for myself. I'm a one woman show. I have no team and I'm not rich and can't hire everyone. It’s exhausting, and it’s starting to take a toll on my motivation and energy levels. 

Take a moment to think about celebrities. It often seems like they have endless energy, living lives of glamor and ease. But the truth is, they have a whole team dedicated to making life easier for them. There’s someone driving them around, someone else doing their hair and makeup, and a savvy crew filming and editing their content. When it’s all laid out, it’s no wonder their lives look so appealing. They have people taking care of the hard work, allowing them to focus on their craft and enjoy their success without the constant stress of daily responsibilities.

I can’t help but wish for that level of support. Imagine not having to worry about chores or errands—just being able to focus on creating, connecting, and pursuing passions. The burden of doing everything alone can be discouraging. When I think about all the tasks I have to juggle, it feels like an uphill battle. The fatigue often makes me want to retreat from social plans or skip events altogether. If I had a chauffeur, a makeup artist, a hair stylist, a videographer, a personal assistant, and an editor at my beck and call, my fatigue would probably go away and I'd have way more energy. 

It's a real challenge. Having to wear all the hats—whether it’s managing household chores, work obligations, personal time, or social responsibilities—can be overwhelming. The desire to do it all for myself is noble, but it can also be isolating and draining. At times, I find myself wanting to give it all up, just because the weight feels too heavy.

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