Reflections on Life Choices and Incarceration
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I’ve never been to the state penitentiary, but my past is not without its share of detours. Back in my 20s, I found myself navigating the streets as a female member of the Crips gang. That lifestyle led me in and out of county jails more times than I care to admit. County jail and prison is two different places. Looking back, I recognize the gravity of those choices and the potential path they could have taken me down. Thankfully, I can say I’ve emerged from that life with a sense of purpose, grateful that I didn’t throw my entire life away.
Jail was a tough experience for me—so much so that I can’t even imagine how much I would dislike prison. In reflecting on the types of people I encountered, there are three specific categories of inmates that I found particularly despicable. These are the individuals that made it hard for me to relate to anyone inside those walls:
1. Sex Offenders and Child Predators: To me, there’s no crime more heinous. The damage done to innocent lives is irreversible, and the thought of these individuals existing within any society is deeply troubling.
2. People Who Inbreed: Whether it stems from ignorance or a blatant disregard for the implications, inbreeding reflects a troubling choice that can create generations of suffering. It's a reminder of the darker sides of human nature that society has to confront.
3. Those Who Have Participated in Gay Orgies: While I believe in the importance of freedom and consent, the idea of excessive promiscuity within confined spaces feels chaotic and unregulated. It's a lifestyle I struggle to understand, especially in the context of a place meant for rehabilitation.
Since I’ve been in my 30s, things have evolved significantly. I’ve sought to make better choices and break free from the destructive patterns of my past. The older I get, the more wisdom I crave. Each experience, whether good or bad, shapes who you are and who you aspire to be.
Life isn’t about dwelling in the darkness of your past but learning and growing from it. I look forward to sharing more about my journey and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. People need to uplift one another and strive for a more positive future, no matter where they’ve been.
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